No vaccine for domestic violence…yet

Published 2:32 pm Friday, October 20, 2023

BY ROB OKUN

For many, the history of mass shootings in the U.S. began with Columbine in 1999. In the quarter century since, there have been hundreds of such shootings, from concerts to houses of worship, from workplaces to big box stores. But the first mass shooting of the modern era occurred in Austin, Texas on August 1, 1966.   

It was lunchtime on a Monday when a 25-year-old former Marine and architectural engineering student made his way to the observation deck of the tower on the campus at the University of Texas. Armed with a footlocker filled with guns, Charles Whitman started gunning people down, both on campus and in nearby streets. Before police killed him, Whitman would be responsible for the murder of 17 and the wounding of 31. But the tower murders weren’t the beginning of the carnage.

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The night before, while his mother and wife were sleeping, he had already stabbed them to death. Coverage of the campus massacre virtually eclipsed the women’s stories. But Unheard Witness: The Life and Death of Kathy Leissner Whitman, by Jo Scott-Coe aims to change that. Published this week, this sensitive portrait of the killer’s wife pieces together the shards of her life as an accomplished young woman growing up with big dreams in rural Texas. It also stands in for the hundreds of thousands of abused women whose lives have been cut short, and whose stories are rarely told. Ultimately, Unheard Witness is the story of a then-unnamed epidemic: domestic violence.

In the nearly six decades since Kathy Leissner Whitman’s murder, despite the many accounts of the Texas tower mass shooting, it has rarely been seen for what it was: an early warning about the seemingly endless wave of mass shootings that plague us, and that have taken up permanent residency in the American psyche.

In the 1960s, domestic violence was an invisible crime. The abuse being committed, primarily against women, was hidden behind closed doors in city apartments, rural farmhouses, and suburban homes. Neither police nor clergy intervened.

As a student and wife at UT-Austin, Kathy Leissner teetered between her burgeoning awareness as a strong, independent woman, and the crushing constraints as a weak, dependent wife. She was trapped, not wanting to be a product of the times, even though most men and women then agreed that husbands were kings of their castles. 

Although she recognized she was in an unhealthy relationship, she had few supports, certainly none of the services abused women have today. Her younger brother, Nelson, preserved Kathy’s diaries and journals; he was always there for her. As were her parents, who saw the warning signs of her husband, Charles Whitman’s controlling behavior, but didn’t intervene.

When Kathy told her father, “…I love Charlie. But I wish I’d never met him,” her father asked whether Charlie had ever hurt her. Kathy recoiled. “No, but he can be violent,” she said. “Then get rid of him, before he kills you,” Nelson heard their father say. “Oh, Daddy. Good God,” Kathy replied. “Why would you say something like that?” Such were the times.

Because Nelson granted Scott-Coe, a professor of literature, full access to his sister’s voluminous writings—she wrote her husband hundreds of letters—readers see up close—and stripped bare—the empowerment struggle Kathy was engaged in.                                                                                       

Estimates are that there are more than 65,000 women killed by men every year, notes writer-activist Rebecca Solnit. This ultimate erasure, femicide, often comes, Solnit says, “after years or decades of being silenced or erased in the home, in daily life, by threat and violence.” While some women are erased a bit at a time, and some all at once, fortunately, some do reappear. Kathy “reappeared” because her brother, Nelson, fiercely protected the primary documents that preserved his sister’s voice.

More than bringing Kathy Leissner back to life, Unheard Witness reminds us that despite all the progress that’s been made since her murder in 1966—from shelters for abuse survivors and self-defense classes, to police trainings and batterer intervention groups holding men accountable—domestic violence remains a potentially lethal poison for which women have no vaccine. In bringing Kathy Leissner back to life, Jo Scott-Coe may now be helping to develop one.

(Rob Okun, syndicated by Peace Voice, is editor emeritus of Voice Male, a magazine chronicling the antisexist men’s movement.)